Rick, a good many women I have bedded over the years have all said pretty much the same thing.
While they do take looks into account, the very best looking man they've ever seen won't even get the time of day from them unless he has a few certain somethings besides looks.
Top of the list? Believe it or not, it's not money and it's not a generously sized schlong, either. Oh they like all that stuff too, by the way but top of the list is how that man
MAKES THEM FEEL.
Sure, there are plenty of outliers in the female world, but since I am probably not all that kinky, I really didn't wind up with a lot of outlier types.
So my fairly normal average Janes, Dianes and Barbaras did not carry the baggage you get with all those Dustys, the Tiffanys, the Diamoniques, the Tawnys and the Verenas...or the Melanias.
Good looking guys made them giggle excitedly but if he opened his mouth and sounded like a moron, the thrill tended to evaporate pretty quickly, unless he had scads of cash and even then, more often than not it was a guy like me that could still lure them away by making them feel special and by challenging them in a fun way.
Women are mostly attracted to INTERESTING guys more than anything else.
Sure, some will settle for guys who have the money, but they'll also cheat on the rich guy in a heartbeat if you're way more interesting, and they think they can get away with it.
And they want security, and they want to feel respected...well, the healthy well adjusted ones do anyway.
In my youth, there were so many well adjusted types that I quickly tired of the drama girls and stuck with the ones who I found "adorable" more than anything else.
Sure, I am wired visually like most straight guys so my eye is always on the prowl, even now.
I am very happily married but fer Chrissakes, I ain't BLIND, and Karen always entertains me with reports of this or that guy on TV who floats her boat a little.
But the great loves of my life, and Karen is the one, got me where I live because they were adorable...something about them just tickled me. So for me, that made them the hottest thing walking the Earth.
That's what keeps me in love with Karen. She's going to look good even when she's old and wrinkled and gray but the thing that kills me the most about her is she is so damn fun and so damn adorable...not to mention she's a total badass.