I came away from that body cam coverage with a very uneast feeling.

Let me repeat, she was scared shitless and shivering and crying. He was charming, breezy, cutting up with the office about the woes of living with women, comparing notes. This had a very Jeffery Dahmer feel to it.
I know I said I wouldn't speculate but I am. I don't believe she "poked" him other than to defend herself.
Remember, the reason the police were following them in the first place was because of a 911 call reporting him slapping her.
Abused women lie all the time to stay alive.