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#301473 06/03/17 10:10 PM
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I'm sorry to drop such a downer on you

My dear wife of more than 30 years has terminal brain and bone cancer and has been moved to a board and care facility.

I love her so much. She is everything to me. I can't imagine life without her.

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I had originally not wanted to post about this because I (1) It was private and (2) I didn't want to be accused of playing the Munchausen by proxy card. Unfortunately, this is all too real.

I like you folks and I consider you my friends.

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We are all your friends. It is hard to write this.

We all have seen death. Friends, parents, maybe children, maybe spouses or partners. It is inevitable: We all die, in the end. Some of us who are religious pray this never happen, but God's answer to that prayer is always: "No."

Now you have to be a mensch, not a golem. Make sure she has adequate pain meds. Tell her you love her everyday, several times a day. Hold her hand. Kiss her. If I can't die peacefully in my sleep, that's how I want to go: With somebody who loves me by my side.

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Originally Posted By: pondering_it_all
Tell her you love her everyday, several times a day. Hold her hand. Kiss her.

I've done that every day that we've been together.

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Mr. Golem:

I lost my dear wife of 41 years together on March 4th of last year. I still have not recovered from that trauma, although I am doing better as time goes on. Yet I think about her daily. And miss her so much.

My thoughts are with you and they shall continue to be. I know that pain all too well.

Ken


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I had to go out and hug my wife while she was trying to plug in the fryer.
Of course the reaction was textbook: "Why are you getting all huggy-squeezy when I'm trying to do something?"

Golem, nobody I know will ever know how to deal with this, so I am not even going to try. Not because I don't have some evergreen baloney to shovel but because I know the idea of it all is incomprehensible.

Just know this, your grief is shared, so are your fears and so is your agony, because any of us who have been blessed with a wonderful partner has thought about it, and we've been at a loss for how to deal with it.


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My deepest sympathies Golem. Very sorry for what you have to go thru.

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And know that we are with you.


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Just saw this thread. So sorry for your wife and for you. Yes, we offer our love and are here for you.


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Sorry to read about your wife's condition. My thoughts are with you Golem. Bow


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