both parties think the other is out to destroy America
A false equivalence.
Make a list of what one party thinks the other is doing to destroy America .... if you can demonstrate the lists are equivalent, I will reconsider my position. An example ... how does guaranteeing everyone is equal destroy America? Legalization of discrimination does destroy the very fabric of the foundations of America.
You may be looking for rationalizations of something which is unsupportable.
ignorance is the enemy without equality there is no liberty